Google "find my life purpose" and you'll come up with lots of coaches, blogs, youtube videos and websites offering you lots of questions to ask yourself to get closer to your life purpose.  And they're not wrong, but here's the thing: you can answer so many questions that you just end up feeling confused. 

We're complex beings and we don't always like the same things all the time: you might love to drive, but after 1,000 miles or so you might find it's not as appealing as it used to be.  Or you can enjoy two seemingly contradictory things at the same time: have you ever been on an extended holiday only to find yourself looking forward to getting back home (or even, getting back to work).  So, there might not just be one answer to the questions that you ask yourself.

The other problem with seeking your life purpose is the answer that you might come up with.  You might love to work as a carer, but if you're earning higher rate wages, that might not be a viable option.  So it's time to get creative.

One way to get closer to your life purpose is to ask what you like about a particular activity or what it gives you.

For example, one of the jobs I loved doing most was waitressing, but it's really hard work for not great wages and I was qualified to get more money for less cash, so the waitressing had to stay a part-time/uni break occupation.

However, when I break down WHY I loved waitressing so much and WHAT it gave me,  there was a lot of really useful information there:

• Restaurants don't normally hold a huge amount of people and the people who are there are out for a good time.  So I like to work somewhere that's fun.
• It can get very busy and I liked the challenge of multi-tasking - good waiting staff are thinking at least 3 tables ahead.
• It's a small team and there might be falling outs from time to time, but generally people work as a team.
• You're expected to get on with the job, so there's a huge amount of autonomy - you're responsible for your tables and making sure customers are looked after.
• It's a support and service environment - and the better your service the better the tips (usually).
• The tips give you instant feedback on how you are performing as does the response from customers.
• The organisational structure is very flat, and it's usually easy to make suggestions for improvement and have then acted upon, so the possibility for influence  and impact is high.
• It's a very visual environment - you're constantly looking to see what needs done and responding to how you see customers react.  (I really didn't like working in a call centre).
• The area of responsibility is very specific – you know exactly what you’re supposed to do, so there are very clear boundaries to your work.
• There is a routine – same menu, same table layout and work stations – but the people are constantly changing.  So there is lots of variety within a very stable environment.

 
I could go on, but I think this demonstrates what I mean about going deeper.  And that waitressing job did have substantial bits missing – no opportunity for learning or growth – which for me would have been a deal-breaker over the longer term.
 
So look at the things you like to do and ask yourself WHY do you like doing them and WHAT feelings do they provide that you respond to in a positive way.
 
And if you’re still feeling a bit lost, you can sign up for the 7 Day Life Purpose Programme.  Or book some Life Purpose Mentoring Sessions.
 
The right questions will give you the answers to uncover your life full of purpose and meaning.

Do you feel the life you’re living is full of activity but somewhat empty when it comes to satisfaction? 
 
If life is good then you’re connection with friends and family is all you’d ask for and life is full enough of fun activities to keep your spirits up and give you a sense of community and pleasure.  Financially you’re secure – it’s always nice to have more, but at the moment you’ve got enough to feel safe.  Work is OK to good and though it doesn’t set you on fire it pays the bills and isn’t too difficult to cope with.  You’ve got interests and hobbies that you enjoy – yes, it would be nice to have more time to pursue them, but that’s life.
 
If life is not so good, then you may be feeling a bit isolated from those around you – you turn up to activities, but you don’t feel connected: they’re not really your kind of people and the event is not really your kind of thing.  Financially you’re struggling – there never seems to be enough money for you to feel safe.  And work is awful.  You know the job or company are not a good fit with you, or maybe you’ve been there too long but there are no other opportunities and you feel stuck, or maybe you can’t afford to move.  Dragging yourself into work every day just drains your energy and leaves you feeling low and washed out – no time or energy for interests or hobbies.
 
For most people life will be a mixture of good and not so good and it will be busy.  But if your life is busy and you still feel that something is missing, you may be looking for your life purpose without even being aware.
 
Life purpose is a sense of alignment with yourself that goes beyond being comfortable in your own skin - it’s a sense that you are expressing what you are here to be and do in every area of your life.  Knowing your life purpose allows you to bring your essence into the world in a way that makes a positive contribution.
 
But it’s not always easy to find.
 
“What should I do with my life?” is a question that can take a lot of investigation and uncovering to answer.  And it’s a heart and gut answer that’s required, rather than an intellectual exercise.  Sometimes it seems so big a challenge that people give up before they even get started: there seem to be so many simple questions but getting the answers can sometimes seem impossible.
 
Or sometimes you may feel you’ve cracked it, only to discover that what you thought was your life purpose doesn’t seem to work any longer.
 
Your life purpose will be constant, but the activities by which you express it may change over time as you grow and develop and acquire new skills and life experiences.  After all, the way you would do a thing in your 20s will be different to the way you would do the same thing in your 50s – experience will allow you to see the same thing in a different way.  But you need to know your life purpose in the first place.
 
And the search for life purpose will intensify at different points in your life: life changing events like bereavement or ill health,  reaching a certain age or redundancy can all precipitate a search for meaning (if you don’t already have it).
 
Wherever you are in your life and whatever may have prompted your search for life purpose, grab the opportunity and the rewards will be great: less stress, a feeling of being more centred in yourself and more comfortable in your own skin, and the knowledge that, at the end of your life you will fulfilled your potential.  It’s not a guarantee of an easy life, but that sense of purpose will help you overcome the lumps and bumps that life throws your way.

Discover how close you are to living your Life Purpose in this free quiz.

I don't think it's a coincidence that there's a lot of political activism at the moment - and not only because there are a number of very big just causes to be active about! 

I think that people are seeking purpose in the pause that the pandemic has created.  I'm very conscious that some people are busier than ever homeschooling, caring, tending the sick, keeping essential services working, remote working, but equally there are a good number of people with time on their hands: time to pause and think, to look around them at what's happening, at where the focus is going (or not).

Without the normal daily rush that work creates in their lives, they have time to wonder and maybe to worry about the future.  They have time to think about what kind of future they would like to be part of creating.  They have time to notice and appreciate the simple, fundamental things that make life worth living and without which life would be much poorer.  They have time to focus on who they are or would like to get back to being.

Our lives naturally push us in certain directions - more work and responsibility for a bigger job, bigger house, bigger car, better holidays.  Now I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, if that's what you really want.  Rather, I'd ask that you consider if that's what you really want, or whether the trajectory of your life has taken you there without you really noticing or choosing.

This pause in life brought about by Covid-19 has given us time to think, and for many, that desire for purpose and meaning in their life has attached to the recent political protests.  My concern is that it may be short-lived because it is not personal.  Life purpose is a very personal journey that is about attachment to internal values rather than external causes.  Now it may be that once that internal connection to life purpose is made, it goes out into the world as an activism to fight injustice or inequality or volunteering at a food bank, or setting up a social enterprise or any one of a myriad of options. 

My point is that your life purpose needs to be personal.  What you do to reflect your life purpose needs to be an expression of who you are: your essential self.  And you do that by going deeper into who you are, not by attaching yourself an external group - regardless of how great the cause.  

If you're in a place of pause, why not take some time to ponder who you are - or who you would be if all the social influences were stripped away.  Allow yourself to pause and sit quietly with who you are and who you used to be and who you can't help but be.  Park your desire to wonder why and how and what and when and sit quietly with who.  Allow all the layers to peel back to allow who you are to emerge.

And if you'd like to know how close you are to living your life purpose, you can check out my free quiz.