My Story
I help people uncover their life purpose and create a more meaningful life by exploring all aspects of their life and passion to reveal what they were born to do.
My name is Doris Wylie and I'd like to help you.
I thought knowing a bit more about my journey might help you in your own search for more purpose in your life, because my journey probably is a good example of how you can keep getting closer to your life purpose until you reach that spot where it all clicks into place.
I began many years ago as a Personal Assistant, because I'm very organised and I like order, but unlike most PAs I'm a big picture thinker and I feel lost in big organisations (unless I work for the guy at the top). It took some trial and error through a series of jobs for me to discover that I liked to work in smaller businesses, without rigid job descriptions (I'm really good at setting up new projects, getting the processes worked out and then handing them over for someone else to maintain). And I have a low boredom threashold, so I don't like repetetive, routine work. I found myself repeating a pattern of having a job for 3 years: the first year was learning the job, the second was making improvements and the third year was getting bored and looking for something else. Eventually I thought I'd found the perfect job as PA to the MD in a rapidly expanding company where the boss was away a lot and I had lots of scope to pick up new projects, get them up and running and pass them on. There was always something new to get involved in and I loved it. This company was very good at training and that was my first exposure to personal development. I did a few courses which helped me understand a bit more about what made me tick and found it very interesting. But my social life was at a standstill because I was working anything from 50 - 70 hours a week. I had moved house and had a garden for the first time and began to get interested in growning herbs, which developed into an interest in aromatherapy, crystals and complementary therapies generally (you'll see why I mention this later in my story). At the same time, I wasn't enjoying work as much, but I just couldn't understand why - it should have been my perfect job, it was my perfect job. I was reluctant to move because a promoted post would reduce the variety of work I'd have to do and I was also afraid I'd find myself in the same situation a couple of years down the line. I felt very ungrateful, because this really should have been my dream job and I just wasn't enjoying it. Thinking about a new job, I got lots of books out of the library (this was pre-internet) and began to research what I could do and what I would be good at. Months later I came to the conclusion that I was doing what I was meant to do: all my personality profile results told me that I was good in a support role. Not very helpful.
I was approaching 40 and I had to decide whether to stay with the PA work or go for a complete change of career - even though I had no idea what that new career might be. The longer I thought about it, the more convinced I became: I made a decision to do something completely different. I come from a family of self-employed and small business people and I toyed with the idea of opening an restaurant, but I just couldn't envision it - I didn't know what food it would serve or how it would look and I was really uncomfortable with the idea of waiting for customers to come to me - what would I do if they didn't come (20 odd years later the idea of marketing still fillls me with terror!). I was beginning to feel really stuck and I think I got a bit depressed, because the process from deciding I was going to make a career change to actually doing it took about 18 months. And how my career change came to me was a complete coincidence!
As I said, I was interested in complementary therapies and visited a large Health Fair were I tried a few taster sessions of therapies, one of which was Reflexology. I asked the Reflexologist a number of questions about the treatment and I remember thinking that it didn't look too hard. I'd mentioned the Health Fair to someone in work who had been at the same Fair and had had a Tarot Reading. She was raving about how good this Tarot guy was, but I was a bit sceptical (my interest in complementary therapies stopped short of that kind of thing). However, after a couple of painful months of feeling stuck, I decided I had nothing to lose and booked a Tarot Reading. As I say, I was very sceptical and determined to give nothing away during the reading. The reading told me very little (although a couple of things he said did subsequently come true). The Tarot guy was also a Reiki Master and ran Reiki courses and at the very end of the Tarot reading told me that within 3 years I'd be a complementary therapist (upselling for his Reiki course?).
Well, the minute he said that, the world stopped for me. Something happened internally, and a connection was made between me thinking that Reflexology didn't look that hard to do and becoming a complementary therapist. From that moment on I was going to be a Reflexologist. I didn't make that decision. it felt like it was made for me. I didn't overthing it (which I'm prone to do), I didn't even think about it: I just accepted that from this point on, I was going to become a Reflexologist. I had no idea how, or what was involved or how much it would cost. I had no idea of whether or not I could earn a living doing it, I just knew that was where I was headed. And I was totally shocked at myself. If you'd told me before that Tarot reading that I would change my life on the basis of what someone said about a few cards, I'd have laughed in your face. Cynical, sceptical, left brain and not prone to leaping without a thorough examination of the facts (at least twice over) that was me, so it change my whole life on the basis of a decision that came completely out of the blue would have been unthinkable. But that's what happened. I did some research and got myself booked onto a course (pre-internet remember, so everything had to be done by slowmail) and I was planning to do the Reflexology in my spare time - until I was made redundant. Talk about the stars aligning! My redundance allowed me to have sufficient funds to complete my Reflexology course and set up my practice without having to worry about money.
And my Reflexology practice, after a bit of a slow start, became very successful. I was still providing that support that was my life purpose, but this felt much more worthwhile. I've no objection to business making money, but it felt much more authentic for me to work one-to-one with people to help them to feel better. Because I wanted to have a holistic approach to supporting clients, I've trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Emotional Freedom Technique - giving me access to both mind and body techniques. And I've run some stress management courses and really enjoyed that group training environment. I've had a great 20 years running my therapy business, but I've been seeing signs that it might be time to really dig down to how I can support clients in a much deeper way. It's been a few years now that I've been pondering what I could do and then, when doing my case studies for my Emotional Freedom Technique qualification, I came across a couple of volunteers who were looking at life purpose, and I also came across an advert on instagram for a life purpose coaching qualification and then I found the old notes for a life purpose course that I had tried to launch about 10 years ago (I'd completely forgotten all about it). Well, I'm a bit more open now to signs from The Universe than I was 20 years ago, so I signed up for the life purpose coaching course and here we are.
I know all the stuff I've learned about myself over the years can help others in their quest to discover their life purpose. I understand how difficult and convoluted the path can be and how you need to ask the right questions to get the best answers. I've discovered lots of tools and techniques that help to tease out information and how our ego, our beliefs, our natural desire to be "good", our need to fit in with social norms and our view of the world can all help to bury our life purpose deep in the recesses of our psyche. The work to uncover your life purpose may well be one of the most challenging personal development journeys you will take - and I'd love to help you along the way.
My name is Doris Wylie and I'd like to help you.
I thought knowing a bit more about my journey might help you in your own search for more purpose in your life, because my journey probably is a good example of how you can keep getting closer to your life purpose until you reach that spot where it all clicks into place.
I began many years ago as a Personal Assistant, because I'm very organised and I like order, but unlike most PAs I'm a big picture thinker and I feel lost in big organisations (unless I work for the guy at the top). It took some trial and error through a series of jobs for me to discover that I liked to work in smaller businesses, without rigid job descriptions (I'm really good at setting up new projects, getting the processes worked out and then handing them over for someone else to maintain). And I have a low boredom threashold, so I don't like repetetive, routine work. I found myself repeating a pattern of having a job for 3 years: the first year was learning the job, the second was making improvements and the third year was getting bored and looking for something else. Eventually I thought I'd found the perfect job as PA to the MD in a rapidly expanding company where the boss was away a lot and I had lots of scope to pick up new projects, get them up and running and pass them on. There was always something new to get involved in and I loved it. This company was very good at training and that was my first exposure to personal development. I did a few courses which helped me understand a bit more about what made me tick and found it very interesting. But my social life was at a standstill because I was working anything from 50 - 70 hours a week. I had moved house and had a garden for the first time and began to get interested in growning herbs, which developed into an interest in aromatherapy, crystals and complementary therapies generally (you'll see why I mention this later in my story). At the same time, I wasn't enjoying work as much, but I just couldn't understand why - it should have been my perfect job, it was my perfect job. I was reluctant to move because a promoted post would reduce the variety of work I'd have to do and I was also afraid I'd find myself in the same situation a couple of years down the line. I felt very ungrateful, because this really should have been my dream job and I just wasn't enjoying it. Thinking about a new job, I got lots of books out of the library (this was pre-internet) and began to research what I could do and what I would be good at. Months later I came to the conclusion that I was doing what I was meant to do: all my personality profile results told me that I was good in a support role. Not very helpful.
I was approaching 40 and I had to decide whether to stay with the PA work or go for a complete change of career - even though I had no idea what that new career might be. The longer I thought about it, the more convinced I became: I made a decision to do something completely different. I come from a family of self-employed and small business people and I toyed with the idea of opening an restaurant, but I just couldn't envision it - I didn't know what food it would serve or how it would look and I was really uncomfortable with the idea of waiting for customers to come to me - what would I do if they didn't come (20 odd years later the idea of marketing still fillls me with terror!). I was beginning to feel really stuck and I think I got a bit depressed, because the process from deciding I was going to make a career change to actually doing it took about 18 months. And how my career change came to me was a complete coincidence!
As I said, I was interested in complementary therapies and visited a large Health Fair were I tried a few taster sessions of therapies, one of which was Reflexology. I asked the Reflexologist a number of questions about the treatment and I remember thinking that it didn't look too hard. I'd mentioned the Health Fair to someone in work who had been at the same Fair and had had a Tarot Reading. She was raving about how good this Tarot guy was, but I was a bit sceptical (my interest in complementary therapies stopped short of that kind of thing). However, after a couple of painful months of feeling stuck, I decided I had nothing to lose and booked a Tarot Reading. As I say, I was very sceptical and determined to give nothing away during the reading. The reading told me very little (although a couple of things he said did subsequently come true). The Tarot guy was also a Reiki Master and ran Reiki courses and at the very end of the Tarot reading told me that within 3 years I'd be a complementary therapist (upselling for his Reiki course?).
Well, the minute he said that, the world stopped for me. Something happened internally, and a connection was made between me thinking that Reflexology didn't look that hard to do and becoming a complementary therapist. From that moment on I was going to be a Reflexologist. I didn't make that decision. it felt like it was made for me. I didn't overthing it (which I'm prone to do), I didn't even think about it: I just accepted that from this point on, I was going to become a Reflexologist. I had no idea how, or what was involved or how much it would cost. I had no idea of whether or not I could earn a living doing it, I just knew that was where I was headed. And I was totally shocked at myself. If you'd told me before that Tarot reading that I would change my life on the basis of what someone said about a few cards, I'd have laughed in your face. Cynical, sceptical, left brain and not prone to leaping without a thorough examination of the facts (at least twice over) that was me, so it change my whole life on the basis of a decision that came completely out of the blue would have been unthinkable. But that's what happened. I did some research and got myself booked onto a course (pre-internet remember, so everything had to be done by slowmail) and I was planning to do the Reflexology in my spare time - until I was made redundant. Talk about the stars aligning! My redundance allowed me to have sufficient funds to complete my Reflexology course and set up my practice without having to worry about money.
And my Reflexology practice, after a bit of a slow start, became very successful. I was still providing that support that was my life purpose, but this felt much more worthwhile. I've no objection to business making money, but it felt much more authentic for me to work one-to-one with people to help them to feel better. Because I wanted to have a holistic approach to supporting clients, I've trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Emotional Freedom Technique - giving me access to both mind and body techniques. And I've run some stress management courses and really enjoyed that group training environment. I've had a great 20 years running my therapy business, but I've been seeing signs that it might be time to really dig down to how I can support clients in a much deeper way. It's been a few years now that I've been pondering what I could do and then, when doing my case studies for my Emotional Freedom Technique qualification, I came across a couple of volunteers who were looking at life purpose, and I also came across an advert on instagram for a life purpose coaching qualification and then I found the old notes for a life purpose course that I had tried to launch about 10 years ago (I'd completely forgotten all about it). Well, I'm a bit more open now to signs from The Universe than I was 20 years ago, so I signed up for the life purpose coaching course and here we are.
I know all the stuff I've learned about myself over the years can help others in their quest to discover their life purpose. I understand how difficult and convoluted the path can be and how you need to ask the right questions to get the best answers. I've discovered lots of tools and techniques that help to tease out information and how our ego, our beliefs, our natural desire to be "good", our need to fit in with social norms and our view of the world can all help to bury our life purpose deep in the recesses of our psyche. The work to uncover your life purpose may well be one of the most challenging personal development journeys you will take - and I'd love to help you along the way.